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Ever get so frustrated in an argument, you can’t find the words to express yourself? Well, now there’s a solution, after one man shared how his girlfriend is using ChatGPT to give her the upper hand in a row.
Turning to ChatGPT in Arguments
The boyfriend took to Reddit to explain that how his girlfriend of eight months has been turning to the AI chatbot mid-fight. According to the post, whenever they argue, his girlfriend, 28, asks ChatGPT for help, sometimes even doing so in the same room. She returns with meticulously structured responses that dissect everything he said, making him feel overwhelmed.
‘It’s nearly impossible for a human to remember every small detail and break it down bit by bit, but AI has no issue doing so,’ the man, 25, wrote.
He’s told her multiple times that it feels unfair – like being ambushed by an AI-fueled argument. But instead of changing her approach, she’s doubled down, saying things like, ‘ChatGPT says you’re insecure,’ or ‘ChatGPT says you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to understand me.’
Debating the Use of AI
Now, the original poster is confused. Is he wrong for asking her to stop using AI in their arguments? Or is it reasonable to want to resolve conflicts without ChatGPT’s input?
Some commenters thought using ChatGPT was clever – and encouraged the original poster to fight fire with fire.
Expert Advice on Effective Communication
Many questioned whether relying on AI for relationship communication was healthy, with one calling it, ‘unhinged’. Metro writer, Alice Giddings, previously experimented with sexting Bloom, an AI chatbot, to explore how intimate interactions with AI feel.
One commenter consulted AI about the use of ChatGPT in arguments and shared the bot’s response: ‘You’re not the a**hole for asking her to stop. AI shouldn’t replace genuine, human conversations that are nuanced and require empathy.'
Relationship Expert Advice
Rather than consult AI, we asked a real-life relationship expert, Annabelle Knight, for her advice when it comes to arguing effectively, without any extra third party.
Before you think about anything else, you first need to ensure that the issues you’re having are dealt with in a productive way.
‘Emotions are natural, but in a healthy argument they need to be expressed without resorting to insults, name-calling, or hurtful behavior,’ Dr Lalitaa Suglani, eharmony’s expert psychologist, previously told Metro.
Remember you’re on the same team and have the same common goal, resolution not ‘winning’ the fight.
Transparency is also key when it comes to money-related troubles, and agreeing on a budget can avoid stress and fights going forward.
However, if ‘every argument feels like it’s going in circles, or if one partner constantly feels unheard or invalidated,’ it could point to deeper incompatibility, and you may need to either seek professional help or consider ending the relationship.
